black women deserve a life of leisure
wellness Coaching for high-earning black daughters setting financial boundaries with family
radical pause
The practice of noticing the moment before you act, before the money is sent, the call is answered, the guilt is soothed, and choosing what happens next instead of defaulting to what has always happened.
radical presence
The practice of staying in a hard moment, your mother's disappointment, her silence, her story of what she sacrificed, instead of immediately fixing it or funding it.
radical possibility
The practice of building a sovereign life, rooted in aligned personal agency. Whether your goal is connection with boundaries or disconnection without shame, you will leave our work making a purposeful choice about your investment in your relationship with your mother.
the careful confrontation method™
Careful Confrontation™ is what happens when your defensive coping mechanisms kick in during a session. When you tell me the worst thing that ever happened to you in the voice of someone reading a weather report, I will stop you and name it. When you pretend not to know what we both know you already know, we will sit in that uncomfortable silence together.
It is important that you understand what this is. I am not confronting you. I am confronting what was done to you and I am doing it while sitting next to you, not across from you. I will not abandon you and I will not allow you to abandon yourself. Compassion is why I do it. Confrontation is the form it takes.